Three months ago, Melissa ended her relationship with her long term boyfriend and has been AITA for asking my friend to walk me home? Video. Family have told me it's unfair to him. AITA for turning around and going home on my way to the airport for a girls trip? Not the A-hole. ADMIN. 21 votes, 19 comments. He isn’t helpless in saying no. I asked her if I could pray for her, and she seemed hesitant about it. YTA. My wife has a bad habit of giving away or lending out things that don’t belong to her. Again, it’s your wedding, your choice. Help keep the sub engaging! ANY friend would have cared about her wellbeing and done it because they genuinely care about her. I took a couple of days after posting to think of how I wanted to proceed and then I took a chance MOD. Sparing the details, her eyes bother her occasionally to the point where she has trouble seeing, especially at night. Me and my boyfriend “Alex”, “Kate” and her boyfriend “James” “Alyssa” and her boyfriend “Thomas”. RecordingCool4336. Expand user menu Open settings menu Open settings menu We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. My father passed away when I (m26) was 22 and my sister (f29) was 25. I could tell she didn’t mean it. My friend group consists of 3 girls: myself 22f, Liz 23f and lia 22f (fake name). I asked her what she had to lose other than a few seconds. ADMIN MOD. After we’re done, I walk her to her dorm first before heading back to my dorm. (And other car related issues). What's dumb is your dad suggesting otherwise. And sorry for the long post. I have always been a very independent person, and very set in feminist ideals. At first I was elated and so I enthusiastically agreed. The following week I walked home with people from my club as we all finished at the same time which we usually don't as I stay later and I had decided to walk the same direction as them for about 10 to 15 minutes for some of my walk home. For context I am 26F and my father has never been in the picture he left the same day I was born leaving my mother to take care of me. I have come to the decision with help from all of you and the person who messaged me (you know who you are)I will not be going foward with this marriage She comforted me, but ultimately didn’t agree on anything and said she needed some time to think. When i was 14 my mother died giving birth to my now 20 year old sister Elise, my father blamed El and started excessively drinking. Neighbors who are outside and can see you also outside may say hello and try to chat if they're friendly. You literally called her a psycho in your post. For context, I am 23 year old (F) who has been living and renting an apartment with two of my friends who I will refer to as G (M) and K (F), both are a similar age to me. So first time posting here, going through a bit of a tough dilemma, so decided to enlist the help of the AITA subreddit, here we go. She’s some evil mastermind for manipulating and bullying him into it! Like wtf lmao So our wedding is in few months and the topic of who would walk me down the aisle came up. My father (53m) has Edit: aisle* english isn’t my first language so apologies for any mistakes. I feel so ashamed to lose my friend but I thought my husband would slightly understand since even he sees the obvious resemblance between him and this kid. Im an only child and don’t have any family beyond my mother as they disowned her when she fell pregnant with me when she was 17. As my friends and I made our way over to her, she texted me saying she wasn’t able to get the bottle, but never sent back the money. This man has known me for almost half my life, he's like a mentor to me & honestly has been more of a father figure to me than my actual dad has, I love him like a paternal figure. It might make me the ass hole because you usually don't pay to go to weddings. And while that was my original thought as well I had another idea. However, he recently bought me a new $17,000 car and I feel like maybe I should let him walk me since he spent so much on me. We would have crazy drunken nights and then assess the damage the next day, and laugh at each others crazy antics - it was just a part of being young/uni life. All my friends think I was being nicer than they would’ve been and they’re completely on my side. Aged 18 I married my high school sweetheart. She got married at 23 and by all accounts, marriage is great. (2) My father has been present and provided for me, but I still want my mother to walk me. This has been the default and I never really thought too much of it. I (21f) have been dating my partner (24m) since my freshmen year of college. This is your wedding and you shouldn’t be pressured into doing something you don’t want. My fiancé asked if I'd have my parents or my brother walk me down the aisle. This also isn't the first time you've called her names. This reminds of a good friend I once had who would constantly ask for a car ride because he never fixed his car and didn’t want to spend money on gas. When we got there, my wife realized that she’d forgotten her prescription glasses. Me (F27) and my fiancé (M28) are getting married at the end of April. I got blocked a lot. I don't have a big family, just my dad and my older sister. Equivalent_Olive_895. ibuvuvug. Update:Aita for not letting my “father” walk me down the aisle. It shouldn’t be anyone’s. I suggested that my ex husband should give me away to him. My husbands best friends wife isn’t my favorite person. She ended up saying no, and we go into a little disagreement about religion. Throwaway account and fake names because my wife is also on Reddit. What happened last night is rocking my friendship group so I need to know if I’m in the wrong for this. And two of our single friends “Lauren” and “Simon”. I [27NB] have a best friend [33M] who's getting married. AITA for refusing the opportunity to walk my sister down the aisle? Not the A-hole. Context: I (35F) was a big riot grrrl in high school, I hated rap and boy bands, was obsessed with my favorite band Taking Back Sunday (still am!) and I still go to lots of punk shows. realvoicesofreddit · Original audio An said it was either she used the scooter or she could stay home. My friend and I both got the stipend. He had cremeted and used to keep her ashes in their home. As for the fallout of my asshole moment, John sent another nasty message that got even more personal, including telling me some things about our past and my father that were very hurtful. I went to introduce myself and bring them a pie right after they moved in. Hi all! First I want to say thank you to everyone who commented on my original post and got me to finally open my eyes to how my "friends" had been treating me. TL;DR at the bottom! I (25F) am getting married in 3 months to my fiancé (26M). PS, she's right. AITA For Avoiding My Autistic Friend? Not the A-hole. Home. The wife is a SAHM and the husband is a trucker. I'm a mother of two, my son Justin (19) and my daughter Megan (14). Almost all wedding etiquette comes down to “don’t upstage the couple”. Thanks to u/czechtheboxes & u/USMCLee for suggesting this BoRU. If Katie is not who the other two wish to associate with, then Katie’s mom and step dad need to help her find other friends. I don’t want to take allergy meds and have to lock up my cat”. He asked me to be a groomsperson, I told him I didn't feel comfortable taking a spot from his brothers (he has six brothers, all adopted, all of which he's pretty close to and I felt like he should ask them AITA for asking my friend to walk me home? I for one I'm glad that you are embarrassed, because that means that you're not lying in an unmarked grave, or SA'd. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. Among those friends is my best friend, Melissa (28f). spupper11. Okay yes, the title makes me sound like I'm the asshole. But bear with me. One of them honestly flunked uni, and is now working at a pub. Asshole. I made it my goal to give my kids a better life. AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings. I posted screenshots of messages I had gotten from all of them saying that I needed to step up. chillgal1014. Two weeks after, I texted her and asked her for the now $55, no Long story short, my friend got a paternity test but said our friendship is over. She asked you to go out with her friends as she'd made plans. My friends and I decided to take a trip abroad and we were all really excited. I assumed my dad wouldn't want to walk me down the aisle, tbh I don't want him to either, so I asked a male friend (58M) instead (1 week ago). My fiancé Mark (30m) planned a surprise proposal for me (28f) and invited all our family and friends. She kept saying she respects what I believe, but she doesn’t believe it. People will still talk, but it wouldn’t stop the show. 3 of my close friends and I recently made a 4 hour trip to a music festival. Live. We parked about two blocks away, about a 5-minute walk. It got me thinking if I YTA for demanding/asking the way you did. For the most part, we have had little to no issues communicating. AITA for asking my sister to watch my children. My four bridesmaids and four of my other close friends spent the weekend at my grandmas cabin in the mountains! The official weekend plans were kept a surprise from me but I had set the expectation that I wanted to I am currently taking action to not let my father walk me down the isle because of how he treated me as a child. Part of our intended wedding ceremony will involve me being walked down the aisle & given away, I enjoy a lot of the classic wedding traditions & that's one I really want to carry out. When I was a kid I always wanted a dog but my parents said no. Like ok-let’s extend that to him. The only kids welcome to attend was my daughter's from my previous marriage (10 and 14). As a result of us not having kids, our home isn't exactly 'kid proof'. My sister decided move in with me because our parents are super overbearing and always makes all of our decision for us and can be pretty My friend Lisa lived near the LCBO so I asked her if she could buy us the bottle, and I’ll come to pick it up, she agreed and I sent her $15. I already discussed this with my fiancé but instead of telling her to drop it he just let her go on, my parents noticed her behavior, my dad told her that I wasn't planning on being a mom, but she just laughed it off and said that I'll change my mind, the started making a toast, She made a toast saying "to my future grandchildren" I got sick My friend (20M) and I (19F) both go to school in the US, but we are both in a foreign country in Europe to gain work experience. Her husband is a light black man. She went on to cuss me out and hung up. AITA for telling my friend to take her children and leave? This is a throwaway account, and I’m new to this. AITA for sending my friends home after bringing their kids after I asked them not to. AITA for wanting my son to walk me down the aisle at my wedding? Not the A-hole. Aita for not having my “father” walk me down the aisle. As I mentioned in my post, I will be seeing Mary again. My bf has a group of friends that all hangout together. Your father is not owed this role. #Shorts My husband's friend (31) lost his wife 4 monrhs ago. After finding out about this my friend told me to "fuck off" and blocked me on everything and refused to my It’s all about putting all responsibility on women while letting men off the hook. He and his girlfriend are adorable and she understands the significance. He told us this during dinner. We booked one of those all-day bus tours where there’s multiple stops that you get off at to explore before getting back on. So initially i asked my poppa (mums dad) to walk me. At 14 I basically became the main caretaker of my three siblings, my aunt and a few family friends were able to help out but the most they could do w I assumed my dad wouldn't want to walk me down the aisle, tbh I don't want him to either, so I asked a male friend (58M) instead (1 week ago). She annoys me frequently. It's your wedding, not a party to honor your stepmother feelings. She wasn’t asking you to drive her 3 hours home. So I walk out and she starts talking about how she has never gotten along with women, so she was happy that I was chill. The lakehouse has NTA. Original Post May 11, 2024. And since nobody really confronted her about it until OP did, she probably thought of her parents as part of the friend group. Me and my boyfriend (F20 and M20) rented a lakehouse Airbnb for this week and we invited some friends. One person in that group (M21) let’s call him Jack, has known me since I was 7 or 8. AITA For making my friend walk 3 miles to get lunch. We left around 10am and after a couple of hours, my friend "Dave" said his phone completely died on him. I've probably been to 200+ in my life. Especially when it takes little to no effort on your part. YTA, it's her flat, your girlfriend needs to work from home, and she doesn't know your friend. She's not drinking like she's 20, she's drinking like someone who doesn't have a child. And she brings him anyway. A male friend of mine that's a few years older agreed to walk me down to my future husband. My Dad was cool and could pop in when my friends and I were hanging out and he was actually accepted, sometimes my friends would ask him to hang out with us, but like once in a while. AITA for kicking my best friend out of my surprise proposal? Not the A-hole. My boyfriend (18M) and I (18NB) have been dating for 9 months. She can work from the bedroom, sitting room, kitchen, cafe, literally any place. NTA it’s up to your sister who will walk her down the aisle. This past weekend was my bachelorette party. Ex husband to current husband and it's kinda symbolic. Edit: over 60k karma. Yea it’s tradition to have your dad but like you said your step dad has been more of a dad to you. It was about 8:15 PM and dark out in one of the busiest downtown parts of our city. AITA for making my wife pay me for something she gave away. So I'm a 19M and I have a group of friends that often hangout together, they consist of, my two best friends and a trio of other friends, and we've been hanging out almost every week for about 4 years now. Be blunt with her. Julie has 3 children (7, 10, 11). Rebuttal by u/Roeapparently. I [F26] have had a friend for a few years [F29] who is autistic. Her husband is a great guy and they now have two kids, (2 years M) and (6 months F). AITA for not letting my dad walk me down the isle? Not the A-hole. r/AmItheAsshole. My dad has always been a single parent devoting his life for me and my sister and working over 14+ jobs in the past 6 years to provide for us. We have a week and a half left here. I'd already made Megan a part of the wedding. Of the three, two were the same skin tone as her husband, and the third was much darker. A few years ago, my close childhood friend gave birth to triplets. This used to be a common feature of sit-coms like "Home Improvement". The problem started when we first got on the bus: There were five of us in the group. Your sister made a choice, and she wants you to walk her down the isle. I know I am asking a lot of her since rescuing dogs is her passion and that is why I feel so guilty. It’s wild to me seeing how many people are defending him and saying she shouldn’t act helpless. I’ve lost count of how many times I go to look for something of mine only for her to say she lent it to somebody. You're a 6'4 dude who got in a crying girl's face to scream at her and her boyfriend told you to back up and put himself in between the both of you. UPDATE. Walking someone (daughter, sister, friend) down the isle is a privilege, not a right. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. 699K subscribers in the TwoHotTakes community. Reels ETA: This guy is literally gonna be homeless at the end of the day with this attitude. We’ve been really close since freshman year of college and we’ve always had the same dynamic when we go out. The fact that he messaged you telling you to change your mind after he already said he didn’t care just shows his fragile masculinity and the way he treated your sister. As we’re getting on the bus, there OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: AITA for asking guests to pay 10 dollars to come to my wedding in the canyon. For context; I am a 21 year-old female and the youngest child in my family, the girl in question is my older sister's friend… NTA. So I only had 50 seats, and therefore I told Julie she could not bring her kids but her and her Everyone Sucks. She didn't ditch you. Your stepdad doesn’t automatically have that right just because he’s been in her life for 15 years. I grew up with a single mother who worked night shift at a motel. I (21M) have been friends with Annie (21F) for 3 years now, since the start of college. Last month my old neighbors moved out and some new ones moved in. So, we planned for a kid free wedding. I (20F) got married Dec 2021 and to my husband and I, our day was perfect. I, 35 female, am the only one in our friend groups without kids. He was very Pervy to me especially in middle school and early high school. For context, he was using a very old style smart phone so ADMIN MOD. He has always supported this though he never quite understood them, but educates himself. Idk. Posted by u/Adorable_Landscape_9 - 12 votes and 16 comments We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. I'm sick of you hanging off my husband and acting like I'm not here. "I'm not chill. And should do, to try and bond with her. I (23F) was supposed to go on a girls weekend trip to Spain with my long time friend of almost 10 years (24F) and her other female friend (28F) who I was excited to meet. Since I have an SUV, I volunteered to drive. . Your partner can look after your daughter once in a while. My mom thinks I was a little harsh but she said she said she’d probably would’ve also done the same thing. He was honoured and it was the best choice imo. The test says my husband isn’t the father. This may seem trivial but it bugs me so I figured I’d ask. So my stepdad has been in my life since I was 6. If you don't have a fence it can be pretty awkward for them to just pretend you're not there. I love my dad and we have the best relationship anyone could hope for. He unfortunately had to lose their home to medical debts and asked me and my husband to let him move in with us and stay for few weeks til he figures it out. Backstory: My father’s not in my life. Saw another post that reminded me of this situation. Nope. AITA. She turned you down, and since you didn’t get what you wanted, you’re punishing her. AITA for asking my friend to text me when a rapper's set is finished? Asshole. AITA for dropping my friends for revealing my husband's infidelity? I've known for years that my (44F) husband (49M) cheats on me. Friendship cannot be forced as ordered. Their father passed away years ago. It’s too bad there isn’t more time, because if he was actually able to come out beforehand, bringing his boyfriend to the wedding would have been fine. His wife was away visiting family and he agreed but even there, some issues started to arise. I am (20) a single mother of 8 month olds boy-girl twins who is a college student and living alone with my 17 year old sister. AITA for asking my friend to walk me home #story #foryou #storytime #redditmemes #tifu #subwaysurfers #help #aita #reddit. UPDATE: AITA for not paying for my friends eyelash extensions for her wedding. My sister, who is friends with my ex, said I was an asshole for expecting other people to pay child support for a kid that wasn't theirs. #Shorts NTA- you can pick who ever you want to walk you down the isle. 1 (27F) have known my best friend, let’s call her Stella since we were teenagers. Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. She has Throwawaystroub. I took a screenshot of that message and it is the header of my profile on Facebook. AITA for making my son walk the dog? Asshole. •. I am the only one out of the three of us that is on the lease, as the apartment is rented by my Mother and I. Me (M32) and my wife, Dahlia (F28) lost our apartment 2 months ago and moved in with mom temporarily. Fourth, she was only crying because you were calling her names. 7. Subreddit for listeners of the Two Hot Takes Podcast! Here you can post your own write ins, thoughts… AITA for asking my bf to stop being friends with someone. I don't mean that in a way that it's OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: (1) I asked my Mom to walk me down the aisle instead of my father. She also takes forever to get the item back, she once Pepper-90210. Be respectful next time. She also had a picture of her father on her bouquet as well. It's a beautiful sentiment to have your sister walk you down the aisle. It doesn’t even have to be your dad or step dad. JustNotEn. AITA for refusing to go to my best friend's wedding. We also had a limited amount of seating available due to pricing and food catering. The internship is unpaid, but the school provided a small stipend to pay rent for those with financial need. NTA. She started to walk up the aisle by herself to represent her father’s absence, then her stepfather joined her halfway. AITA for asking my dad's wife why she expected to walk me down the aisle when she's not my mom? Two of my friends got stable, relatively well-paying jobs out of university (they were head-hunted from Computer Science), and these jobs give them a surprising amount of time off. 1. A couple in their late twenties with four small children. If she doesn’t want your dad then it’s not going to be your dad. Asking for an escort to your car is normal and okay; demanding is not. With this in mind, my sister, after getting engaged, asked me if I would do the honor of walking her down the aisle. Hello everyone ️ I posted my last post 8h ago and since then I have had time to think about what I really want. I can’t afford a babysitter long term, and my friends all have their own kids to look after. AITA for asking my friends what flavor their wedding cake is? Originally posted to r/AmItheAsshole. I (22f) am in the wedding party of my friends we will call Em (25f) and Roe (25m) who will be getting married in about 2 months. For some context, my parents divorced when I was 6 years old, my mom remarried when I was 6 and my dad never remarried. He's known me since I was about 6 years old and has been an amazing friend and basically a brother. Following the advice of the comments, I replied calmly and then blocked him. My friends and I got ridiculously drunk on a regular basis in my late teens/early twenties - it was just part of having a fun night out with my friends. AITA for not letting my dad walk me down the aisle at my wedding. I love the idea of normalizing having a friend or loved one walking you down the aisle! Not only is it more special and meaningful for you, but it rids the stigma that a father is to “give away” a woman to another man, like property. Help keep the sub engaging! Also I just want someone to reassure me that my make-up and hair looks good tbh. AITA for privately asking my friend about the paternity of her children. We usually chill at one of our friend’s places every Saturday night with our friend group. Reply reply. There is no sad story there, we just don't want kids for multiple reasons. It is not like ordering a meal that will be EXACTLY as you prefer it. I'm currently engaged to my fiance Kane (41) and we're getting married soon. Not the A-hole. I'm tired of you blatantly ignoring your own man to get attention from mine. When I was 12-15 I had a friend named Mary from school who lived the closest to me out of… ADMIN MOD. Issues began to arise between Dahlia and mom and I had to ask my friend, Anthony (M31) to let us move in til I get enough money to rent out. My wife (39F) and I (42M) have three sons, Alex (15), Dylan (11), and Jake (8). She has a purse dog that I’m allergic to, and she brings it everywhere, despite me saying “hey, Bologna can’t come to my house today. I had my brother walk me down the aisle when I got married. I just roll my eyes and move on. It was a nice tribute to her father and also a acknowledged the role her stepfather played in her life. Never regretted it for a second (and my asshole dad is alive). There are 8 of us on this trip. However my stepdad of 9yrs (34M) has suddenly decided to start crapping on the wedding. But I don’t have anyone else to help me. My fiance (26m) & I (23f) have been together for over 2 years. I'm uncertain if I'm being an asshole or not and seeking the opinion of internet strangers. NAH. She doesn't have to say yes. vj ly so yx or ou cb kw vs ru